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You Can Be Healthy and Eat Cake

I’m not perfect, and I don’t pretend to be (well, at least not right now). I make errors in my writing (grammar, syntax, and the like). I don’t wear make-up all the time. I don’t always have a sparkle in my eye. Sometimes I have bags beneath my eyes and my hair is oily and I just want to wear my comfy clothes all day.

I love nature but I’ve let plants die, or I’ve straight up kilt em’. I’ll go too long between waterings because — life. And I’ll just put the plant in the trash because I’m not sure what to do to bring it back.

I get scared when people around me change, especially those closest to me. I have insecurities that come ablaze when shit shifts. I feel uncertain and vulnerable in new situations. I don’t always know what to say. I get it wrong sometimes. I feel awkward on occasion.

I’m not always nice, kind, or loving. Sometimes I’m mean or even bitchy. I try not to but I judge people. I judge them for being unkind or in a bad mood, especially when it’s unfairly directed at me. In those moments, I find it even harder to be kind; although, sometimes I do a freaking amazing job because I have bad moods too, and I get it.

I’m not always great at embracing other people’s humanness. But I do my very best because I don’t feel right when I’m around people who don’t claim their own imperfections. I feel unsafe.

If I can’t be human in your presence, then I don’t want to human in your presence. Which drives me to want to create a safe space for others to human in my presence, even though I’m not perfect at it.

I human quite regularly which goes along with growing, expanding, evolving, pushing my edge, and embracing discomfort. You can’t do life without the flair of human imperfection.

I do believe it’s important to be healthy in mind, body, and spirit. Embracing imperfection isn’t about enabling inappropriate, poor, or unhealthy behaviors and patterns.

I eat healthy a lot of the time but I love cheeseburgers and french fries with a root beer from In and Out. Lately, I’ve been putting sugar in my coffee. I like salty potato chips. And Grandma’s oatmeal cookies are always on the menu.

Embracing positive change isn’t about being perfect all the time. But this belief holds people back.

For many people, it’s easier to embrace a negative identity than it is to embrace the paradox of life: you can be healthy and still eat your birthday cake. You can be a kind, compassionate, and loving person and still have judgments or criticisms of others, including yourself. You can love nature but plants may die on your watch.

You can be both. It’s not like you have to give up one for the other, although many people want to give up the negative. Because, well, it’s negative. But you can’t do that. It’s ALL a part of being human. And the more we resist ALL sides of ourselves the harder it is to embrace ANY aspect of ourselves.

Your human flaws will shine through in some way, shape, or form, and, yet, you can show up every day committed to deep, soulful, compassionate, and loving living. You can show up motivated to eat healthy and exercise. You can show up dedicated to instilling a positive mindset. You can do these things. And when your human shows, you can love yourself even more and give great gratitude to Life for keeping you humble.